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When to start dating exclusively

Your relationship isn’t doomed if one person is not ready to commit.

Forming a relationship takes vulnerability; don’t let the fear of rejection hold you back.Though there were sparks when we first met, I had recently gotten out of a long-term relationship and was enjoying casual dating.The way I turned him down was key because I still wanted to continue seeing him, I just wasn’t ready for an exclusive commitment.I don’t recommend bringing up an exclusivity conversation if you’re not ready to commit.An exception to this is when you think the person you’re dating is becoming too attached or moving more quickly than you’re comfortable with.However, often times each partner is anxiously wondering how the other person feels and whether the relationship is moving forward.

Plus, our emotions and level of interest do not always develop at the same speed. Some signs to look for that the person you’re seeing wants to get more serious are: If these ring true, then there’s a good chance he or she is not ready for a commitment.

All of these issues impact satisfaction and the success of a long-term relationship.

If you’re just having fun and don’t see a future together, this is the time to end things before the person you’re seeing puts in more effort and energy.

You both just need to communicate openly and honestly about where you are emotionally.

If your feelings are lagging behind, a great way to boost attachment and emotional intimacy is to have conversations about core values.

Nothing feels worse than to invest your valuable time and energy into an emotionally unavailable partner.