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Understanding nonverbals when dating

Fortunately, you don’t have to be an expert in psychology to read basic body language; all it takes is being aware of some basics.The amount of eye contact your man makes can be a helpful clue. D., and author on body language, writes that we make greater eye contact with people we like.

The waiter looked at me as I started talking, then glanced over in the middle of my request at another table.Generally, the greater the eye contact, the stronger the relationship is between two people, she says.Generally, we make greater eye contact when listening but, when speaking, alternate between making eye contact and looking away for brief periods of time.Don’t you wish that sometimes you could read your date’s mind? The good news is, while becoming a mind reader isn’t an option, becoming just a little more observant of nonverbal cues may give you some of the answers you’ve been looking for.An amazing 55 percent of all communication is nonverbal, according to the famous research conducted by Albert Mehrabian.But there is a difference in the level of intensities of eye contact; there’s “paying attention” eye contact and then there’s “predator eyeing its prey” eye contact. This difference is what Olivia Fox Cabane, a charisma coach, calls soft and intense eye contact. You want the warmth in your eyes to convey friendliness that is achieved with soft focus.

An intense eye contact narrows your range of focus and puts you on the path to a flight or fight stress level reaction, which interferes with your likability and attractiveness. You achieve soft focus by closing your eyes and re-opening them to focus on the space that fills the background instead of focusing on one object. On a date, you want your body to say you are enthusiastic and happy to be with the person you’re with.

It shows that you are present and interested says Vanessa Van Edwards, founder of Science of People.

Everyone can improve their body language to create rapport and build likability for successful dating.

My guide will help you figure out the different signals your date is sending out to you that you might not be familiar with.

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Here’s how to use body language hacks to increase your attractiveness and likability on dates. This means if they dress like us, speak like us, and have similar mannerisms, we automatically assume they have the same level of education, social background, even similar values.