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So if monogamy is the price of admission this person is willing to pay, let them pay it.
By "stop trying" I don't mean you should stop making an effort to be a better person or a more loving partner — we should all constantly strive to be better people and more loving partners — but you can't spend the rest of your life on a therapist's couch. If you truly make your husband miserable, he should leave you.And remember: What works for you as a couple — and what you want as an individual — can change over time. We have been together for twelve years, and we were married for eight years before getting divorced last year. We reconciled four months after the divorce, despite the affair I had.I have a history of self-sabotage, but in my relationship with him, it has become near constant.I have been in therapy solo a number of times with similar results. He doesn't feel like I have ever really fought for him or the relationship. My Enraging Self-Sabotaging Yearnings It's unlikely I'll be able to do for you in print what three couples counselors and all those therapists couldn't do for you in person, i.e., help you change your ways — if, indeed, it's your ways that require changing.I always get the therapists on my side and no real change happens. Have you ever entertained the thought that maybe there's a reason every counselor or therapist you see winds up taking your side? Are you truly awful, MESSY, or has your husband convinced you that you're awful in order to have the upper hand in your relationship? Lots of people do and lots of marriages survive them.) If you're not being manipulated — if you're not the victim of an expert gaslighter — and you're awful and all your efforts to change have been in vain, MESSY, perhaps you should stop trying.Deliriously Anxious Monogamist Nervously Inquires Today If you stay together forever — what most people mean by "work out" — your partner will definitely grow to resent you.
It could be for this reason, DAMNIT, or for some other reason, but all people in long-term relationships resent their partners for something.
Everyone thinks I'm a smart and kind person that occasionally makes mistakes, but I'm not that person with him. I make promises I don't keep and I don't do the right things to make him feel loved even though I do loving things.
We have been in couples therapy a number of times, but I always derail the process.
Her service combats that problem by preventing men from communicating with female matches, unless the woman has contacted them first.
(Women have 24 hours after matching with a potential suitor to get in touch, or the connection is gone.) Bumble has, however, struggled to integrate same-sex dating into its interface.
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