Online dating takes patience
Those of you who have been reading for a few years will know, there are a lot of things I despise about online dating, with my own experiences making me super cautious of throwing myself into a vast virtual box of lying piranhas…
Maybe throw in that he’s got a good edumacation (yes I did spell it like that for fun), a great job, nice house, money in the bank and yada yada yada, and all of these things will be focused on, whilst failing to notice that the person is not someone of substance.4) You think you have a lot in common with your partners…when you don’t I’ve discussed this extensively in my posts on compatibility, type, and common interests as well as 10 reasons why women choose men that they really shouldn’t, and ‘But we have so much in common!.‘ As humans we seem to be obsessed with finding people who have GSOH, like classical music, eating Thai food, climbing the mountains, talking intellectual doo doo, and feeling like there is a meeting of the minds.Now imagine, going online and seeing someone who looks just like the type of person you’d like to be with…It’s just so easy to get sucked in when you’ve got ‘type’ on the mind because you’ll ignore the big stuff like red flags, boundary crossing, and values.Forget Facebook – If you want to let your friends know how much you loved that latte on the way to work this morning, or share a photo of the most adorable kitten playing a guitar that’s well and good.
But do you really want a guy you just met to see all those old photos you’ve been tagged in?
As you can imagine, a lot of comments and emails hit my inbox each month and after reading so many tales of online dating woe, here are 10 things that make online dating a tricky avenue for many people. If you’re the type of person who meets someone and then fairly sharpish wonders what your surname will sound like with his and are already thinking about if he’s The One, what you’ll be doing next year and yada yada yada, you’re not cut out for online dating which is full of illusions that need to cleared away to get the reality.
You can be anyone you want to be online – just ask the men and women who pretend they’re single whilst their partner is fast asleep downstairs…
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I’ve had a lot of requests to talk about online dating again.
If you don’t have boundaries, you’ll probably be OK with some of these things, maybe even think they’re a sign of their great interest in you, or even if you don’t like it, you won’t exercise your judgement.