My friend is dating a married man
Another one lived in Nigeria with his wife and I lived in Sierra Leone. But I would always say ain't no reason to be sorry this is the fact of our life.Of the four; two are still married, two others are separated/divorced (had nothing to do with me. I was very honest to myself about the nature of our relationships; I considered them temporary situations of circumstance.
He was beautiful, still is, but I'm a changed woman. Like all relationships, I left when the connection faded, or it just wasn't working anymore.I don't believe anything good can come from intentionally trying to destroy something else. No one dreams of meeting the man of their dreams and see them already married.I have learned that the man of your dreams, really truly is not going to come married to someone else.I don't mean if he keeps a woman, but I mean if he has a relationship with another woman who is an equal for love and not sex that that woman is going to be an accomplice in keeping his secret. Even years after the affairs I had with married men end, I would never say we were together. If you ever date a married man...don't do it for more than a year, don't think about a future with him, there isn't one, and don't try to destroy his marriage. Do women go out with the intent to find themselves a married person to fall in love with? Attraction, destiny, soul mate connections, current life circumstances, physical attraction, discontent with current relationship, they are all ingredients in the recipe for an affair.The question you must ask yourself is, How much time are you willing to invest in waiting to see if he will end his marriage and move forward into a relationship with you?
You need to be realistic, these situations can and do drag on for years.
Expect last minute rendezvous at the drop of a hat, but .
Unless you are well socialized, you can expect to be very lonely during these times. You will be unable to share details of your relationship with friends and family as you would in a normal relationship. You will never get to know his parents, his siblings, his children or his circle of friends unless he gets a divorce in the future, which again, is not where you are now.
If you ever date a married man and you're a smart respectable woman like myself, don't plan to marry him.
Don't try to break up the marriage (wasted energy you don't have that power).
Being the other woman requires you to take a step back and take a cold, hard, analytical look at the realities of your situation.