Mirroring in dating
Unfortunately, I lived with a version of this for 25 years.If one half of the couple is only going to mirror the other's behavior then I see naught but a death spiral.
I didn't know what to do to break this cycle and attract assertive men who had "juice".Unlike the others, I happen to agree with this logic.If a man truly wants to be with you, he will do what needs to be done to be with you.In any case, I didn't feel it necessary to be the engine keeping things moving forward and then feeling resentful that I was doing all the work.I felt like I was using masculine energy and didn't feel very feminine or very sexy in these relationships. My time is too valuable to be chasing after men who don't want or deserve me.Both gender like it when they know they are appreciated.
If I feel a woman puts little effort into a relationship, that she does not care enough.
If I wanted a mirror image of myself I would stare into the mirror ad nauseum. I Do NOT want a woman who has a passive attitude to life or to me!
While an obsessive attraction is a bit dismaying, if I get the feeling I am not arousing some level of attraction leading to action from a woman I'm out of there. TKMsg 22: You asked if this mirroring worked for daters. I would portray mirroring as a technique, not "rules", though.
When he's hot, reciprocate that, this is your time to establish bonding. Don't try to force yourself unto him asking for attention and affection. Trust His Actions, Why Words Don't Mean So Much For A Man.
Do not plan around him, go out pursue your own interests.
" if he has said it once that he wasn't ready for relationship. The less you are attached and act eager, the safer he feels and the more he wants to come closer and spend more time with you.