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I just needed to have the right opportunity, and the right man, to let these ‘girlish’ traits show.I realized that I might have forced myself until then to be this independent, outgoing girl with an “optimistic character,” fixing problems by myself without relying on my man.
I had doubts about whether I was good enough a girlfriend to him considering that I was keen on remaining an outgoing, independent woman.I stopped going on different social gatherings because I wanted to be like him — being considerate and focusing on our relationship.Through him, I learned relationship is like a mirror that reflects one another, because I realized it was he who had first engaged in some form of in reality had been a part of my nature all along.It’s Valentine’s Day, and I am enjoying making chocolate on my own.I no longer categorize this activity as a womanly activity. I also recognize that so-called girlish behaviors like are not the preserve of women. The revelations on my part may be uncomfortable for some South Koreans to bear.Here are some things I heard from my ex’s: “Why do you have so many male friends? But the same guys would get angry when their own girlfriends tried to drink more than one can of beer.
” “Do you really have to go to all those social gatherings? They wanted to date a girl who was smart and independent enough to handle her own life, but also dependent enough to respect when faced with difficulties.
I am full of contradictory desires, wanting to be my own self, whatever that may be, but also wanting to meet South Korean society’s standards on what a proper woman should be.
All the people I have met at school, at workplaces, even at home have influenced me.
I’m still learning about how to balance society’s demands on women and my internal traits.
However, now I know I don’t need to suppress my ‘girlish’ impulses in trying to be an independent woman.
I see myself as a lively, bright and sociable girl.