Good ways to start a conversation on a dating site
In total, I received 11 messages with 218 visitors. A few were a little more forward, and two were straight-up aggressive.
As I was serious about finding someone, I uploaded a lot of pictures of myself, had a very thorough profile, and received a lot of attention. Eventually, it got to be too much and I closed my profile.Plentyof Fish is perhaps the most popular online dating sites out there, with an estimated 6 million pageviews a month and 76 million users (a little less than the entire population of Turkey).It’s no surprise that I received nearly twice as many messages on Plenty of Fish than Ok Cupid and Casual Kiss combined.In fact, it’s not uncommon at all for women to be threatened for refusing to send nudes or insulted when they say they’re not interested in the man messaging them.I spoke to a few friends about their experiences with online dating websites.One of the most notable of these is a reddit user who set up a fake profile and didn’t last two hours.
He came away with the realization that women have it much, much harder on these sites: I figured I would get some weird messages here and there, but what I got was an onslaught of people who were, within minutes of saying hello, saying things that made me as a dude who spends most of his time on 4chan uneasy.
Continuing to be horrible did not dissuade any of them.
There are also instances of men, believing women ‘have it easy’ on dating websites, setting up fake profiles and being shocked by the messages they receive.
It’s creepy, and in some instances really scary – not a turn-on by any means. If you see a picture of a woman you like, take the time to read her profile. When messaging a woman without bothering to learn about her through her profile, it may come across as you not caring about her as a person – no one wants that. If you’re interested in something casual, tell her or put it in your profile.
Neither is asking for, or offering to send, nudes (unless they were not discussed first). If you’d like a casual encounter, make that known as well.
I personally have had some experience with Ok Cupid before this experiment, which weren’t completely positive.