Gen x and online dating
I asked my dad about this experience, and here’s how he described it: he told his parents he was ready to get married, so his family arranged meetings with three neighboring families. That’s how my dad decided on the person with whom he was going to spend the rest of his life.
Are we (Gen Y) much more likely to do it on the first date? Honestly, I don't know how much stock to put in those labels.I told her that I don't agree with her on counts 1 and 2. I'm 27 now, just started seeing a girl that has some serious LTR potential, but I'm no where close to being married.My mom married my dad whom she met in college and he was the only man she had ever been on a date with.Fifteen or so years difference chronologically - not a whole lot, and we could all be considered Boomers - but OH what a difference in cultural standards and sexual mores.As Djuna said, the differences within the so-called Boomer generation are vast.Boomers believe more in natural selection, on the hunt for the mate whose attributes can provide the most desirable relationship for them.
Gen's X and Y are more "democratic" more accepting of uniqueness and eccentricies, even more spiritual in their selection of a mate.
One person might fit into the box, but his family won't, and he is the product of his family. For instance: My parents were born in 19: Boomers I was born in 1973: Gen X My younger sister was born in 1980: Gen Y My cousins were born in 19 (something like that): Gen Y My eldest daughter was born in 1996: whatever comes after Gen Y I am of the same generation as my sister and cousins; our fathers are brothers. My sister and I grew up in the same house, with the same parents, watching the same TV shows and going to the same schools.
I'm a Boomer (1962), and I do see a vast difference between the way things were in the 1970s when I was a teen and watching my daughters going out on dates.
Whether it’s where I’m eating, where I’m traveling or, God forbid, something I’m buying, like a lot of people in my generation—those in their 20s and 30s—I feel compelled to do a ton of research to make sure I’m getting every option and then making the best choice.
If this mentality pervades our decisionmaking in so many realms, is it also affecting how we choose a romantic partner?
Too often I had to school these boys on simple things: if you take my daughter to the Homecoming Dance, you will present her with a corsage..will pay for her dinner....simple stuff like that. My eldest daughter who is now 21 was all good with my teaching her boyfriend at the time of how things work.