Feeling discouraged about dating websites
The humor is used to distract.” Marital status: “separated”: This one isn’t necessarily a deal breaker.But Dan Neuharth, licensed marriage and family therapist, says “you need to find out just how separated he is.
Not a woman who will go “Oh honey, mommy is so sorry your sick, but I’m still going to take you to your grandmother’s because “so-and-so” will be upset with me for ‘standing him/her up’.” If you’re so arrogant as to think that you should be more important than any child, then you really have no business dating a mother.Like I said before, kids grow up and live their own lives.Your mate is the one who will grow old with you (hopefully) and spend the rest of his life with you.So chill out, other people have a right to their views too. What he was referring to was when someone goes OUT OF THEIR WAY to put that phrase, ‘my kids come first’, in a profile or write it during a conversation (how does that even come up in conversation???) there are HUGE issues there and the person reading it should run for dear life. So there was no need for you to “counter” with “why I would put my child over a man” because he wasn’t arguing that point - you veered off into a completely different direction with your rant.And I have never heard anyone give themselves such pious, sanctimonious airs about motherhood who is anywhere near the precious, loving little saint of a mommy they’re so desperately trying to convince people they are.
Genuinely good, selfless mothers don’t talk the way you do. There are predators who do specifically target unwed mothers for especial attention because they’re looking to find someone who is emotionally vulnerable so that she’s so pre-occupied that they have easy access to kids to do what they really want to do to kids. Single moms do not need extra drama in their lives and if the man is bringing the drama and forcing her to decide “it’s either me or the kids” then she is right to deep six that guy!
Find a woman who is sterile, done with her childbearing, or doesn’t want kids.
Don’t put mothers down because you are that much of a narcissist. Take it easy here, you need to grow up and quit with the immature insults.
Christan Marashio, founder of And Thats Why Youre Single.com, adds that “it's normal for people to have some trouble crafting a profile and to use self-deprecating humor to lighten the mood.
Too much humor is usually a sign that the person is insecure and uncomfortable with being vulnerable, which could lead to problems with emotional intimacy down the road.
So improve your chance of success by keeping an eye out for the following red flags as you sort through potential date’s profiles: Photos: Photos can tell you a lot about a potential date.