We make comparisons in order to help us make decisions for the same reason we stereotype people: it’s a short cut for our brain when we don’t want to think too hard about something.
I already know I’m not going get any dates after I post this since guys will think I’m a gold digger, so I might as well tell you my genius solution since I’ve gone this far.Have you ever ordered dessert with out asking what all the choices are or looking at the dessert menu?Maybe you want chocolate cake, but you always want to know what your other options are so you can compare the chocolate cake you think you want to a potentially better dessert?If I had to choose between two guys: one who makes $250,000 per year and was just “ok” looking, and the other who makes around $60,000 per year but was “hot”, I’d choose the guy with the cash. They recorded activity from 23,000 online daters during a three and a half month period and found that: “For men there is no amount of income that the woman in the bottom ten percent in terms of appearance can earn to make men prefer her over women in the top 10 percent. This is the truth though according to a few researchers from University of Chicago and MIT who did a study to find out what factors drive communication between men and women.That is, looks really matter to men relative to income.
For women though, if the man in the bottom ten percent in terms of looks earns more than $248,500, they will prefer him over the more attractive guy earning $60,000.” I can appreciate these observations, but it’s now clear that girls are getting hosed when it comes to this online dating stuff. Ok fine, maybe he left it blank because he’s modest or temporarily unemployed, or maybe he works for a non-profit.
I never used match but on another site you can see if the guy lives alone, has roommates, owns a car or a bike, and keep narrowing your income bracket, unless he just racked up debt for the past 10 years. I got a text message lecture later about how I should have paid because it “makes her feel like a lady.” Give me a break, every time a woman manipulates a guy (particularly one she barely knows) into buying her something in exchange for her time/affection, it sets women’s equality back just a little further.
Don’t tell me to respect you as a capable equal, and then demand that I help you financially before we’ve even exchanged five sentences in person. Thanks for telling all guys to not put their income up!
Guys don’t have this disadvantage because nearly all girls put pictures up! Dating sites should require that guys say how much money they make so girls a can make relative comparisons just like guys do with our pictures.
Please forward this to anyone you know who works at an online dating company. ———- Kathryn plows through any news that impacts your money and makes sense of it.
They say if a girl put a picture up, it’s a huge red flag.