Dating or courtship which is biblical
I’m not talking about a slip up every eight to twelve months.
In our contemporary context, however, there seems to be a particularly acute and nuanced resistance to this notion, and areas of male leadership that were once assumed are now questioned as outmoded at best, patriarchal and misogynistic at worst.We want to spare our children the pitfalls of the modern dating tradition, but often don’t know how to explain to them how courtship works!What’s vitally important is not which – but rather, to not opt for Pharisaical rules but find Biblical principles.Ever since Joshua Harris kissed dating goodbye in 1997, the dating vs.courting debate has raged within the evangelical community.That’s why I usually tell guys that, if they are dating, they should be ready to marry within a year to a year-and-a-half. So guys, ask yourself: Am I in a position to be married within the next year to eighteen months? You must settle this issue before you enter into a romantic relationship because you will not be fit to lead your girlfriend and future wife while you are on such shaky spiritual ground.
Are you able to provide for a wife or be in a position to provide for a wife within the next year to eighteen months? College freshmen who believe they met their future wives at orientation may balk at this statement.
Let these questions spur you on to greater diligence, not unproductive self-loathing.
Christian families hear a lot about courtship and dating these days, but often lack clear ideas as to the differences between a dating approach and the courtship concept.
This is not to suggest that it is wrong, in every circumstance, for a woman to take the first step; what matters is not so much who takes the first step, but whether or not the man initiates the relationship from that point on.
What does it mean to initiate a romantic relationship?
In the past when I’ve asked guys about their intentions with the woman they are dating, I’ve often heard the biblical-sounding language of God’s will. It is good to live humbly under God’s sovereign will, for we cannot ultimately determine our future (James -18).