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Using a bad picture While women are notorious for using overly good photos as their profile pictures, often resulting in a bit of disappointment on the actual date, men are well known for choosing pictures that don’t do them justice. If you’re feeling clueless about what makes a good photo (and, to be honest, most men are) then ask someone else.A female friend, a sister, even a professional dating advisor if necessary.

The level of grooming requirements will vary from person to person, but at least make sure your clothes, hair, and teeth are all clean when you see your SO.A good picture on your profile is important, even on sites like PARSHIP where more importance is placed on psychological profiling and compatibility. Trying too hard It’s hard to stand out online, especially when you’re a man.But often you see guys putting really curious things in their profiles or sending pretty random first messages in an attempt to be quirky and different.When your habits impact your life and the lives of others, it becomes a problem, and healthy people want healthy partners.At the beginning of a new relationship, it’s easy to get swept up in a world of constant messaging and last-minute dates.Don’t spend too much time telling your potential partner how great you are, unless you want her to leave you alone with a mirror so you two can get it together instead.

A little bit of modesty can go a long way, even if you do think very highly of yourself.

These actions are indirect ways of telling potential partners that their time doesn’t matter to you. Sure, being rude to the person you’re out with will end the night quickly; but mistreating the waitress (or “forgetting” the tip), the doorman, or anyone else you come into contact with will also ensure that a second date doesn’t happen.

There are plenty of non-smokers who don’t mind when their partners occasionally smoke, as long as it’s not done in the house or around other people; but getting carried away with cigarettes or alcoholic drinks is another story.

If a woman says on her profile she’s interested in meeting a particular type of guy and you’re not it, you should probably not contact her.

Or if you do, make sure you’re respectful and aware and don’t get too wound up if she rejects you. Being too cocky You may have heard that women like confident guys, but there is a difference between confident and arrogant.

Communication is up there with honesty in “things crucial in a relationship.” At first, that can mean talking about/listening to each other’s likes and dislikes; but later it will translate to how you live together and handle bigger issues.