Dating korean women and first date
Think about your hobbies, passions, ethnicity, home country, and find your image that radiates from who you are. This is even more important for you because otherwise you will just come across as an English-Speaking Korean. #2 Not wanting to learn about their world One thing that just gets be cringing is how many foreigners I meet who have lived here for years and know nothing about the culture besides Chuseok and Chinese New Years vacation! Imagine foreigners coming to your home country and not speaking the language. You see, it’s not that you speak the language that counts, it’s that you’re willing to learn about them and their world.
#5 Thinking that Korean women are easy Before I came to Korea, I was very excited because I imagined that Korea was a lot like South East Asia: Just show up and women will be lining up to go on dates with you! Korea, I soon found out once I arrived here, is on the opposite side of the dating spectrum. Life’s tough for us (I’m darker skinned as well) but if you really want to find and date the ideal Korean woman for you, it’s definitely possible and we’ll make it happen! It’s interesting to watch American films emphasizing the 3-date-rule, because really? Of course, this is generalization and there are variations, but the main point is that although the ideology of sex is changing rapidly, mostly due to media, there’s still a stigma on girls having sex before marriage. The “proper” women must remain chaste, and the requirements of being chaste are utterly crazy. As Askakorean blog concisely states, Women in Korea were clearly divided into two camps along the dichotomy, and it is a one-way street if they do cross the divide. Instead, Korean couples use kakaotalk messenger to keep each other updated non-stop. There’s always variations from couple to couple, but the fact that this list exists may come as a surprise. Another key note is that Korean women love knowing that they have control of the date. You see, being with a foreigner is still very new and different for her, regardless of whether or not you’re a gyopo or not.This is quite different from Western women who enjoy being on the saddle more and feeling like they are taking control of the interaction. You want to calibrate how much hand-holding, touching, and especially kissing when you’re with her.You can go to coffee shops, bookstores, parks (during this time of year it’s great), such as Namsan park.
Personally, I like coffee shops as Korea has become a coffee-drinking country, which I am happy to see.
So they will act like they don’t like things more, will throw comments about your choices, BUT ultimately they want you to be in control and are more comfortable with it as well. This is even stronger for when you’re approaching a random woman at the bookstore, or coffee shop or even the subway.
You want to assume that she will be shocked and even frightened when you are going up to talk to her.
Most foreigners who come here choose to go from work or school to their homes and only go out to go shopping!
Granted, this might be because it’s intimidating to be a foreigner in this country, or they might have kept the habit from their home country. And you don’t have to go to Hongdae, high-priced clubs or massive social events.
Thanks for reading my article and if you want to discover more then feel free to check out my other Korean women dating tips.