Dating for over 40s
They especially need to feel needed and like an important contributor to your life.
If you want to be noticed and rise to the top, it pays to create the best possible profile and keep it polished and shiny.It often goes something like this: “I spend my days as a busy lawyer and my evenings teaching courses at the local college.Many weekends are spent training for my next marathon and singing in my church choir.” Whew!You can go on to say that you look forward to a relationship, but really…where can a man possibly see time for himself in that picture?Also, avoid these statements: “I don’t need a man, but it would be nice to have one in my life.” Or, “I’ve been fine all these years without a man but I’ll make room for the right one .” Men, just like women, don’t want to feel like an accessory in someone else’s life.I guarantee you’ll see the immediate payoff in the quality of men you attract. Here are some statements I see every day in women’s profiles: “I’ve waited so long for the right relationship and I hope it’s finally my time.” “I’m ready to be his everything.” “I’m looking for a relationship where we are totally devoted to each other.” While some of this may be true for you, it’s not something to put in a profile.
The man reads this as you having incredibly high expectations and reliance on your relationship for your happiness. If you wouldn’t say it on your first date, don’t write it in your profile. Women in their 40s, 50s and beyond are particularly guilty of this.
” Spend your initial time letting him know how you relax and enjoy yourself and how being with you will add positively to both of your lives.
You can roll out the “heavy” information as you get to know each other.
After a day of dry lectures and an evening of happy hours and conference socializing, we were tired, a bit tipsy, and slightly giddy.
As we sipped wine and gazed out at the hotel's infinity pool and the lights of the city, we talked about how nice it would be have to have a date with us.
Is it attracting the interest of couch potatoes, the chronically ill or the guys just looking for a little action?