Dating and guys
” I asked my long-term makeup artist (and confidant), who was getting me glammed up for a charity event in Toronto. But while sitting in her chair and listening to her usually calming voice, I had doubts about his debut, if you will.
I was all confident and bold inviting him under the haze of a couple vodka sodas, but the next day I worried what people would think about the 24-year-old on the arm of a 32-year-old relationship columnist.Part of this seriousness, I think, can be attributed to the belief that you give part of your heart to every person you date.For many of us, our first encounter with this idea was reading Joshua Harris’ book I Kissed Dating Goodbye.I spent the duration of my makeup sesh analyzing, doubting, and questioning, but as soon as my (now) boyfriend walked up clad in a Prada tux, a smile, and a confident aura, I knew not only that I made the right call in including him, but I didn’t want him not by my side.Now, six months later, I can’t help but be flattered when I get carded when we’re out at bars or buying wine.My bringing it up on my own sort of cuts off the questions everyone wants to ask anyway. Yes, his stamina is exactly what you’d expect from a 20-something male, and yes, it works. Now, I’ve learned to balance my work life and my personal life.
Past partners of mine have had careers they worked years at, so it was easy to continue to put work first. Thanks to all the free time he has, I now schedule more free time for myself to enjoy with him.
It’s a problem that affects many of our brothers in Christ—it might even be affecting you.
Finally, it’s a problem that’s disappointing many of the young Christian women in our lives. My father has many memories of giving the cute girl from youth group a ride home on the handlebars of his bicycle, while my grandfather had something of a reputation for dancing with all the eligible young ladies at Christian fundraisers.
Each represents a woman that the groom dated and gave a piece of his heart to, before he had meet his bride.
It’s a chilling idea, and one that I think has certainly created some reluctance toward dating.
Or when women (and men, so many men) in my age bracket raise their eyebrows with an impressed look in their eyes, because my 6-foot-2 boyfriend may be young, but he’s also a head turner.