Dating a mother
No matter what the age of the child, avoid a detailed account of why you broke up.Your kids deserve an explanation, but shouldn't be your confidants."This is big nay for me when children are in the house," Zane says.
Talk about how we meet people we like and as we get to know each other better we get to decide if we still want to be friends, she says.For the timid or busy, it's a great way to get used to the idea of looking for love without the pressure.Whether you're looking for a fling, a ring, or something in between, remember that dating is part of the journey, not a means to an end, Zane says.Dating is complicated in general, but it’s a whole different ballgame when you’re dating a single mom.If you’re going to date a woman who’s raising kids on her own, don’t expect the status quo — there are a few things you need to know going in.Don't have shared custody or family or friends in the area? You're older now, hopefully wiser, and have kids to consider.
You can't date the same way now as you did in your twenties, Baumgartner says.
"How would you feel if your kids came into your bedroom in the middle of the night with this person sleeping over?
If you can comfortably answer your child's questions and tend to their needs with that person lying in bed next to you, then maybe you're on the way to some slumber parties." If not, you can find other creative ways to make time for intimacy.
If activities seem too hard on your schedule or psyche right now, Zane says to look into the Internet dating scene.
"They are fun, flirty, and super ego boosters," says Zane.
"It's important to engage your village, friends, family who can support you with time-sharing and babysitting," Zane says.