Dating a fat guy
Being fat is treated as a referendum on your worth as a person – people see it as an implication that you’re only fat because you simply don’t want to change badly enough. The societal disdain for heavyset people is so ingrained that even people who are fat feel ashamed about who they are and that they have to apologize for some personal flaw that leaves them with the mark of Canes when the truth about obesity is as much about external factors as it is about food consumption.
It’s not totally clear why extra cushion improves the pushing, but research suggests stamina might have something to do with it.Men with noticeable bellies and higher BMIs last 7.3 minutes longer in bed than slimmer men, a 2010 study from the International Journal of Impotence Research found.And that’s 7.3 minutes you don’t have to spend in the gym.Being overweight can cause a variety of health problems for men, including heart disease, diabetes, and upping their kid’s chances of being obese.Fortunately for heterosexual guys, however, women tend to be surprisingly forgiving about the flaws of the male body, perhaps because they have fewer neurons in their visual cortexes.Besides, the best revenge is living well and there’s nothing quite like seeing the underdog succeed despite all of his or her disadvantages. The cognitive dissonance can make people’s heads explode.
Now, I’m going to be blunt: dating can suck when you’re fat.
This, of course, on top of the literal comfort of cuddling with your cozy dad bod.
Every once in a while, I like to poll my readers on the Nerd Love Facebook Page and on Twitter to find out what issues they feel are holding them back when it comes to dating.
And the most common answer is: “I worry that I’m too fat to date.”I’ll be honest: I’m not surprised. According to the Center for Disease Control, 69% of adults 20 years old and over are overweight and 35% are considered obese.
And yet even when the number of people who are considered overweight form the majority of the population, obesity is in many ways one of the remaining acceptable prejudices.
But it also may explain why women are attracted to fat men in general—everyone wants to be with someone they trust. There’s a substantial amount of evidence that women are more attracted to men who can make them laugh.