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''They've never behaved like this before,'' the mother said as she led the man to the door.

“Provide basic information to a child, depending on age and developmental stage.” And remember: They’re your kids, not your friends.''C OME for dinner,'' she told him on the third date. ''I can't imagine what got into them.'' Other single mothers and fathers can well imagine.''I want you to meet my children.'' He arrived with flowers and a bottle of wine and not a twinge of foreboding. Seven-year-old Lisa positioned herself beside him on the sofa and began force-feeding him with potato chips. When a parent begins dating again after the divorce, children have a way of complicating the picture.They’re quickly discovering what I did—dating with kids in tow is a whole different scenario.One of the biggest issues we face from the get-go is: What do we say to our kids? I asked Toronto psychotherapist Jana Brankov for some surefire tips. Talk to them Trying to hide the fact that you’re dating won’t work. “You need to be authentic because kids sniff us out. Keep it simple Brankov says one of the biggest mistakes dating parents make is telling their kids too much.I planned on keeping my married name, raising my 2-month-old daughter alone, and living out some kind of disservice.

As a mom, you’re wired to put your children before yourself. But like they tell you on airplanes, you can’t help anyone with their oxygen mask until you put your own on.

And that you will always be there for them,” says Brankov. Be clear If you have a particularly inquisitive child who is asking for too many details, you don’t have to divulge all the information. As Brankov says, you want to send the message “’You’re important to me, no matter what you have to say. I value who you are.’ It’s one of the ways to build self-esteem, when you take them seriously.” 6.

“They really don’t care about parents’ romantic life or social life.” And this can be to your benefit. No secrets If you tell them not to tell grandma or your ex about your “new friend,” you’re only setting them up for keeping secrets from you in the future, says Brankov.

It’s better to assess the situation and just tell your ex before they do. Read more: Making it through your divorce How to be a good friend to a recently single Mom (or Dad!

From sleep issues to tantrums to potty training, you have to tackle every arduous aspect of parenting on your own.

Of course, a child may have positive feelings and even form a strong attachment to someone a parent is dating. ''When a relationship is still tentative,'' he says, ''a single parent is likely to want the children to understand that the relationship is between the parent and the new person and that only incidentally are the children involved.'' As the mother of a 9-year-old boy explains: ''I don't want Jimmy to become involved with the man I'm seeing right now.