Becoming best friends before dating
I get a good amount of emails, texts, DM’s and Facebook messages from people asking me to address their specific relationship issues on this blog, and since I use to answer a lot of questions on here back in the day, I figured there is no time like the present to revisit answering relationship questions.Today, we tackle a topic that MANY women often wonder about, yet receive FAR too many mixed messages from men to formulate a clear understanding of what we truly want: How can a woman build a solid relationship with a man built on genuine friendship WITHOUT ending up in the friend zone?
First, please understand that men definitely WANT to have an incredibly strong and genuine friendship with their woman.I'll be "friendly," but a real friendship requires some level of honesty and ease.I know some people are capable of masking their true feelings, a la Joey Potter, but that's just not in my nature.It was probably, because at some point, I ended up making out with these supposed guy friends. ) This Jen Kim Want to know when I write a new post? Sources: "Will Love Last Longer If You Are Friends First? It's all the more confusing when friendship is offered as a consolation prize.Usually alcohol or loneliness were the culprits of these lamentable decisions. (After all, we are all prone to occasional lapses in judgement.) If you stick to that philosophy, then you can and definitely be friends. Any man knows that to be told by a woman that she thinks of you as a friend is to be told to keep your hands to yourself.Attraction is also the feeling of being in sync with someone.
With friends, you get along great and have lovely conversations, but finding someone you have a unique connection with--whether you share the same humor, frequent the same foursquare locales or both love "The Golden Girls"-- is what gets chemistry beakers boiling.
Jealousy and possessiveness occur in all relationships- including friendships.
I've been envious of new friends that supplant old friendships.
It just sounds like your waiting for the inevitable letdown, you know?
According to Paul Dobransky, PT Blogger and co-author of This list makes more sense.
Attraction is that magic ingredient that makes your heart race when you get a text message from your sweetheart or what fills your stomach with butterflies whenever you see him at your doorway. no one ever announces "Ok, we've achieved successful Friends status and are now ready to proceed to whatever Step #2 is (dating/hooking up/going steady/being lovers/soulmates/marriage) -- in short, the infamous next level".