Be friends before dating
You're basically already on your six-month mark by the time you have your first date.
" but with him, you already have a pretty good sense of who he is because you've spent the last year hanging out with him like pals. He knows that you start imagining he's dead on the side of the road when he doesn't text you back for eight hours so he does his best not to make you think he's dead. If he's the type of guy who would've been your friend whether you eventually dated or not, he's already the best kind of guy to date.There are also people who win the Mega-Millions lottery with a single ticket.Just because it’s theoretically possible doesn’t mean that it’s going to happen to you, and betting the farm that you’re the exception is a very good way to end up without a farm.Remember how I said you’re going to be a different person once you’ve broken up?That means that you’re going to relate differently to your ex too; things that you were cool sharing before can feel incredibly awkward or intrusive now that you’re not together any more.But what if you legitimately to be friends afterwards? Just because you didn’t work out as lovers, it doesn’t mean that you can’t be friends – even Let’s start this off with some straight talk: you’re not going to be friends for a while.
How do you navigate the complicated waters of a post-break-up friendship? Yes, there are people who say that they were able to slip straight into a friendship after they broke up without missing a beat.
You need to have time apart, without being in contact with each other, in order to move into this new phase of your life.
One of the things that people tend to forget – especially in a long-term relationship – is that you develop new habits and routines that center around having your ex in your life.
Regardless of whether you lived together or lived apart, you will have into certain patterns that are dependent on working in tandem with another person. It’s easier and healthier to start a friendship when you’ve had the time and and distance to get some perspective on your old relationship.
It takes time to relearn how to be on your own again, and the longer you were with them, the longer it’s going to take. Plus, getting over your ex helps avoid the annoying “reconnecting because you want to bang, not be friends” two-step.
And you can't think of a better person to do that with than him.